A few days ago I came across an article online by a young British girl who describes her experiences with men in Germany.
I often stumble across articles from women who claim Germany to be a developing nation with respect to flirting.
Around 10 pm we decide to have dinner….thanks, didn’t realize we were still eating on European time- I’m fucking starving. I think date 3 is a little soon for a cooking date! I’m sorry, do I have whore/easy/slut/sure thing written all over my face? When he is my boyfriend.” He quickly interjects, “how do you know when you are exclusive?
” I later admit to him that I don’t want to put my awful cooking skills on display quite yet or quite frankly, have him in my apartment on our third date. He adds, “I just want to be somewhere more private, in case we want to get intimate…” What. I quickly, and probably a little more sharply than I should respond, “Excuse me? If that’s what you are looking for then I’m not it.” He takes a big sip of his martini, and says, “well when do you have sex with someone? Do you assume that I am dating other women right now? “I have no idea what you are doing and nor should you have any idea what I am doing.” Silence….
For those of you who come from countries like the US or Canada where politeness is the norm, Germans may surprise you with their rudeness.
The fact that he says he can shop for hours and not get bored doesn’t phase me in the slightest, in fact, I welcome that challenge. Mid-conversation he blurts out, “our third date should be a cooking date.” I jokingly respond, “a cooking date? What would Patti Stanger say….”Not until I’m exclusive with someone….that’s when. We are out of there faster than a sweater off of a Barney’s sale rack.
No need to wonder if you should chew some gum while talking to him. While you definitely have to grow some thick skin, the bonus is that they really tell it like it is and that can be refreshing. Do not: Expect that guy you’ve been eyeing across the room to make his way to you.
Do: Position yourself as close as possible and ask him a neutral question.
For single women visitors, the dating game in Germany can at first seem like a free, gourmet buffet.
The men are almost all impressively tall, many are blond and, almost invariably, they are extremely handsome with the bodies of Adonis.